Breastfeeding · Parenting · pregnancy

Breastfeeding in pregnancyΒ 

Disclaimer.. this is ANOTHER post about breastfeeding, so if you have no interest in the topic feel free to skim past this one! 

Yes you read it right, breastfeeding and pregnancy can go hand in hand. Before being a mum, I wouldn’t have had a clue about whether it was possible to breastfeed when pregnant. And it’s unsurprising as so many people believe this myth to be true, even health professionals! In fact, even my mum thought this to be true, as advised by her midwife at the time. So, when she fell pregnant with me when my sister was 3 months old, she too stopped breastfeeding. 

It’s widely assumed that your body cannot provide the right nutrients for both baby in utero alongside your breastmilk. This is infact false, and many women feed their babies throughout their pregnancies and beyond and eventually tandem feed. 

Tandem feeding didn’t appeal to me whatsoever. And so when I fell pregnant with his brother when he was just under 1, I had to reassess my aim to feed him until he was 2. I just knew it wasn’t for me. Perhaps this was due to the mental and physical demands breastfeeding required, but also I just couldn’t imagine having two babies so dependant on me, and the logistics! 

And so I knew I wanted to stop feeding my eldest before his brother arrived, but I didn’t put a time limit on it and I wasn’t ready to stop to begin with, and neither was my food refusing nearly 1 year old. Yes that’s right, at 1 he was still yet to eat a full meal of anything, so had been relying on me 100%.. (see what I mean about it being demanding)! 

So I decided to just go with the flow. And my baby decided more and more that he would feed more and more than ever before which made no sense to me as he had previously only been feeding at naptimes (twice daily), bedtime, and for night feeds. But I kept at it nervously as it seemed like I would actually end up tandem feeding after all! My monkey just showed no signs of stopping, and it felt cruel to take away his only nourishment as he still wasn’t eating or drinking anything else. 

But then it started to get painful. REALLY painful, sore, cracked and bleeding nipples. But I still soldiered on, sometimes crying through the pain. For anyone that’s ever experienced the pain of early breastfeeding whilst your milk supply and babies latch is being established will know how bad this is. Only there was no end to this. Then, at around 20 weeks pregnant, my baby wanted to feed EVEN more, sometimes 3 or 4 times an hour and all night. It had become unbearable. But at 14 months old he had finally started to eat some solids. 

And then it hit me. The constant feeding but him never being satisfied, the pain, and the frequency, led me to the realisation that my milk had turned back to colostrum. And as he wasn’t established onto solid food or any other liquid, he was getting more and more frustrated as even though he was feeding more, he wasn’t getting what he needed. 

I managed 3 months of feeding him through the worse pain ever and and I was now 5 months pregnant. It all become too much, I needed my body back for a few short months before it all started again, and I needed a rest, and definetly some sleep. And so when my monkey was 15 months old I decided to stop breastfeeding him. It took 3 days of offering cuddles and snacks instead of milk, no tears and no fuss. I was shocked! But I also truly think it was a lot easier as he had not been getting any milk for weeks, maybe months and was actually just getting frustrated and fed up by this. 

I hadn’t actual decided to night wean straight away, I was still going to continue with one night feed until I was ready to tackle it, but I was shocked further when after day 2 he stopped waking for his night feed and slept right through.. which was of course a bonus! 

So yes, breastfeeding and pregnancy can go hand in hand, but just like breastfeeding in general, it will not be an easy ride and it takes a lot of effort and dedication. I was proud to feed my baby for as long as I did during my pregnancy but I was also so thankful for the few months break I got in between, and the sleep! 

I’d love to hear other mums experiences of feeding whilst pregnant, or if any of you were fabulous enough to tandem feed. Was it worth the pain and preserving or like me are you glad you stopped when you did? 

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Breastfeeding · motherhood · Parenting

10 Tried and tested ways to get your newborn to sleep

I think almost every new mum has a few moments of madness where they just CANNOT get their baby to sleep despite trying everything in the world. And when they finally do sleep you run to the loo, put the kettle on, put some laundry on, then sit down to drink your cup of tea.. and just like magic they wake up! A whole twenty four minutes later! This ordeal is repeated multiple times a day until you are literally ready to tear you hair out.

So here I my tried and tested ways of getting a baby to sleep..

  1. Feed to sleep. This is the simplest, easiest method out of them all. Feed your baby until they fall asleep. Simple? Although many books, experts and other mums will tell you that you must absolutely NOT do this and you will ‘make a rod for your own back’ which is why I spent the first 9 months or so with my first little monkey avoiding feeding him to sleep but had an even worse ordeal in doing so. And now, my new little cutie will not feed to sleep and I so wish he would! Typical!
  2. Go for a stroll. This is a win win all round, baby gets fresh air and so do you (and a chance to burn some calories in an attempt to lose some baby weight.. only to go home and destroy a whole pack of chocolate biccys after πŸ˜‚), and they will peacefully nod off. The only problem is if you have cheeky monkeys like me you have to keep walking the entire time you want them to stay asleep, otherwise they wake up the minute you stop!
  3. Take a drive. This is perfect if your feeling  to lazy to go for a walk or the weather is rubbish or your so shattered from trying everything else. But again, my monkeys will wake the moment the car stops!
  4. Wrap your baby. This worked like a dream when my baby was first born. I could pop him in my ring sling, carry on with chores and he would be asleep in minutes. But now he’s older he screams and screams when I attempt to put him in and my toddler is sat in the pram ready to go and gets impatient so when we attempt this we end up in a full blown disaster.
  5. Rocking.. This is another one that the ‘mum police’ will tell you to avoid unless you want to be rocking your child until they get married! But if it works you’ll do anything to get them to sleep when you so desperately want them too! You could also add in some humming and singing for quicker results.
  6. Humming or singing. Some babies will sleep to just music with no rocking involved.. worth a try!
  7. A bouncer/ swing. Your baby may weell fall asleep in these, perhaps with some encouragement (meaning rocking/ bouncing it so much it never stops). Mine very rarely did or do.
  8. Swaddling. This apparently works like a dream, if only you can figure how to swaddle without annoying your baby so much they are no longer tired from all the crying!
  9. White noise.. such a good way to calm down a screaming and overtired baby. You tube has many noises to choice from, or you can even just switch the tap on :). My baby seems to know the difference between ‘real’ white noise (the rap running) and ‘fake’ sounds on you tube, which my husband is rather unimpressed with as we have a water meter.. hmm.
  10. A combination of 1 or more, or ALL.. if your desperate like me, you might need to attempt more than one of the above. I rock, and sing AND use white noise all at the same time, until he finally nods off πŸ™‚

You’ll be pleased to know, this mainly applies to the fourth trimester, after that, its easier to predict when you baby will be tired, and therefore easier to get them to sleep in a more ‘normal’ manner. So hang in there mama’s those first three months go quickly, and then you move on to new challenges!

Family · motherhood · Parenting

My secret to 2 under 2

So last week, my oldest monkey turned 2. I won’t talk about how I feel about it all in this post, as that’s an essay in itself! But, I officially no longer have 2 little monkeys under 2. My biggest little boy turning 2 has made me reflect on the last few months. I’ve talked about my day to day survival tips previously, but there are a couple of things that have made the last 4 months so much more manageable, and I’ve actually been suprised at how we have coped and how it’s been far easier then I ever imagined it would be.. don’t get me wrong we have had our moments as well! So, before I forget, I wanted to share these with you all. 

There are two things that have really, really helped us in the last four months: 

1. Routine, routine, routine… 
Yes, I’m one of ‘those’ mums. My eldest has a strict routine and has done from the very early days, which was driven by him not us. I often see friends rolling their eyes when I have to leave somewhere early due to nap or bed time, or god forbid turn something down. But having a solid routine works for us and has actually been a godsend with two which is why I also got my baby into a routine as soon as I could.  My days are predictable, so from the moment we wake, I know which baby needs what when, and when we can fit in activities, outings and chores. And the BEST part is, both my little boys have a longer lunchtime nap so I get a couple of hours to myself in the middle of the day to make lunch, do some chores and sit down and relax! And the even BETTER part is, both boys are in bed around 7/7.30pm. So I get a couple of hours to myself in the evening, to have a quick tidy up, and time to do whatever I want and feel like a human being again! 

I really don’t know how I’d cope without my days being predictable and a tired baby usually leads to a fussy baby, but with a solid routine I know if my babies fussing it’s not because he’s tired if he’s not due a nap. My newborn has been in a semi routine since about 8 weeks and now at 4 months he’s in a solid routine. He wakes at 6am, naps at around 8am, 11am, and 4pm and has 7pm bedtime. The toddler wakes by 7am and naps at 12-2 and has a bedtime 7pm. 

To get the baby into a routine I followed the same pattern as my eldest, which was from around 8 weeks old I would put him to sleep again after around 1.5 hours awake time. But as all babies are different, and their needs change as they get older, my youngest doesn’t actually need a nap until 2 hours awake time and can last 2.5 hours sometimes. From literally 1 week old, once he was asleep past 9pm I took him up to bed with lights out and no talking/interaction during wakings until the morning. This quickly allowed him to learn the difference between night and day and helped us to get into a solid routine. The last month or so I managed to then bring bedtime to 7pm by treating his last nap like bedtime when he woke up. 

I know that strict routines do not suit everyone’s parenting style, but without one I seriously don’t think I would cope as well as I have. I am generally on top of all the housework, the house is generally clean most of the time (I have developed OCD), and I mange to cook fresh meals most days. Oh, and I get my daily dose of ‘me time’. We have pretty much got to the stage where having two little monkeys is the same as when I just had the one and we can all, enjoy our time together. 

2. Co-sleeping 

I never thought I’d want to co-sleep. With my first, we moved our Snuz pod next to me crib away from my bed after a couple of weeks, as it didn’t sit flush against our bed and my stitches made it difficult to get my baby in and out of bed. Plus he was a good sleeper and we were disturbing each other throughout the night. This time round my monkey is not such a great sleeper and having my baby next to me has been amazing. I never put him in my bed as I like to sleep sprawled out and I do want him to be used to sleeping in a cot, but as he is just next to me, I don’t fully wake up when he wakes, I feed him, burp him, then pop him back in. As a result, I don’t have to get out of bed, I barely even wake up, I don’t check the time and best of all I don’t count how many times he wakes. 

This time around I have totally changed my outlook on night wakenings and I’m not focused on how well he is sleeping and purely just trying to get the best night sleep possible to deal with the next day. I often go to bed at 9pm or by 10pm latest and it helps me to get more hours rest, especially as my baby sleeps the best before midnight. It also helps with the super early mornings as he regularly wakes at 5am. As a first time parent I was obsessed with how many hours my baby had slept, how he had fallen asleep and getting him to sleep through, but being so much more relaxed this time and co-sleeping has made a huge difference and I’m in no rush to change things just yet as why fix it if it’s not broken.. 

I’m enjoying things so much right now that both boys are in a routine that I even think we could squeeze another little bubba in with a similar or slightly smaller gap! But having said that, we don’t know what we don’t know and I have NO IDEA what the next few months will look like, mums with older babies may be laughing at my optimism right now, but I’m feeling ready to handle anything so I’m excited about watching my boys grow together! 


Breastfeeding · Parenting

Product review..The breastfeeding sleepshirt..

Any breastfeeding mum will have come across this struggle at some point in their nursing life. You wake up to do the night feed and your pjs annoy your baba by flapping in their face and they get further annoyed by you taking so long fumbling around in the dark to lift your pjs up. You are then sat up half naked for the good part of an hour, or you fall asleep nursing and spend the rest of the night freezing with half your top up and half down.
Well ladies, I have discovered something which will revolutionise nighttime nursing for you.. the breastfeeding sleepshirt by Daisypops.
The sleepshirt has sleeves to keep your shoulders warm (one of the reasons I hate wearing vests to bed is I spend most of the night with my shoulders out of the duvet..), and a simple split across the front of the top so you can pop your baby on your chest and feed away without having to fumble around in the dark and without freezing to death.
It’s also great for loungewear when your in the house (especially in the postpartum early days)  but want to be in something comfy that is still practical to feed in. In fact I love mine so much I have been using it out of the house as it’s just so easy to feed in! It has been a godsend when leaving the house in this mini heatwave! 

The material is lovely and soft and it comes in 7 lovely colours and the lovely people at daisypops now ship to the UK! I was super impressed that my top arrived in less than a week. The shirt costs approx Β£27 and is worth every penny as even though it’s summer here in the U.K. the weather cannot make its mind up so some nights are freezing and some nights boiling hot and I hate being cold at night.

The pro’s for me are fuss free feeding, no more cold shoulders at night, and super discrete feeding if you wear it out the house. I’m not usually a fan of nursing clothes as they don’t usually look good, but this sleepshirt has been really well made with lovely quality cotton and I felt great wearing it and it’s going to come in handy so much during winter night feeds.

 
Check out the different colours available here and thank me later πŸ™‚ 


Lovely Rebecca at Daisypops sent me this sleepshirt to try out and review but all views are my own. 

Breastfeeding · Fashion · Lifestyle · Maternity · Parenting

Outfit of the week

In the search for some new breastfeeding friendly clothes, I stumbled upon the website Shein. Stylish, on trend clothes and very reasonably priced. 

I’m still waiting for the haul of things to arrive (the two downsides I’ve found so far is, your items come sporadically and take a very long time to arrive). But so far I am loving this T shirt. 

I wore it with high waisted jeans and a vest underneath so I could feed by pulling the tshirt over and the vest down. Oh and my Adidas sandals. And I felt great wearing it πŸ™‚ 

Lifestyle · motherhood · Parenting · Postpartum

My postpartum survival must haves.Β 

So you have your hospital bag all packed and ready, the baby bag is ready, and your nursery all set up. But as a first time mum you can easily overlook preparing what you will need post baby, I know I did first time round resulting in my sister making daily trips to the supermarket.. bless her. 

Second time round I was more prepared and it’s made a massive difference so I thought I’d share my postpartum survival must haves with you all.. 

  1. Nipple cream.. I used Lanisoh. It’s pricey at around Β£10 a tube but so worth it. The early days of breastfeeding are extremely hard, and I don’t think anyone prepares a first time mum for how painful it really will be. This little purple tube, takes some of that pain away.
  2. Maternity Pads.. first time round I certainly wasn’t prepared for the amount of bleeding and length of time this would continue. I think I only brought a couple of packets of pads. You will need more, a whole lot more, so stock up! Boots usually have a 3 for 2 on maternity products, and I found these ultra slim ones to be the best. While your doing an online shop, you might as well pick up number 3 & 4 too..
  3. Disposable bed mats.. great for when your waters break (not saying your psychic and will know when this will happen but if your in early labour you could prepare), and for using for the first few weeks post baby,  these are great for savouring your bedsheets. 
  4. Disposable briefs..you may think why?! But, you won’t have time for loads of laundry and you can keep spares on hand in the bathroom as you may get through a few a day and I just found using these easier and less faff in the first week or two while the bleeding was very heavy (nobody told me about how much I would bleed?!). Again, I got these from the boots maternity section. You can find them here
  5. Nursing tanks.. or nursing friendly pjs.. this will make nursing throughout the night so much easier. With my first I wore baggy shirts which was a faff and you end up annoying your newborn as your top waves around their face. A nursing tank or buttoned pjs make such a difference. 
  6. Spare pjs to hand! The amount of times I’ve been puked on, my milk has leaked and even poo’d on during the night is unreal. Keep some spare pjs out, especially if like me, your clothes are all kept in your spare room where your visitors are sleeping πŸ˜‚. 
  7. Water! It’s crazy how thirsty you get when your up at night, especially if you are a nursing mum. I keep a big bottle of water and a glass on my bedside table so I don’t have to get up during the night. 
  8. A breast pump! This was particularly useful as a first time mum as I leaked and felt ‘full’ a lot in the early days. It hasn’t been as bad second time around, but I found a pump really helped to relieve the pain and fullness. I really do want to start pumping more his time and trying my little munchkin on a bottle so I can catch a break every so often.. it’s just finding the time to pump for this seems impossible.. sighs. 
  9. Nappy stations.. This has been vital with a toddler and a baby about. I used to do all nappy changes in the nursery with my older monkey but it’s not simply possible to leave what you are doing and head upstairs as I can’t leave my oldest downstairs alone for a second. So I’ve set up a ‘nappy station’ downstairs with both boys nappy essentials and lots of spare clothes, and two more upstairs in different rooms. This has helped a great deal when my newborn has needed a whole outfit change and I have two screaming babies to deal with. Everything is right there on hand! 
  10. Sleepyhead. When your a first time mum you can easily get carried away with paraphernalia aimed to give you the ‘perfect baby experience’. I’m not one to get carried away with this and we have barely brought anything new for baby number 2.. BUT I can’t recommend the Sleepyhead enough. It’s worked a treat with both my boys, and allowed me to put them down as soon as they are asleep. My newest monkey did still resist being put in it for the first four or five days but soon got used to it with some persistence. This would be my number one baby item if I could have only one thing in the world.. 

So that’s my top ten things for making the early weeks just a little bit easier.. what are your just have things/ hacks for the first few weeks? Would love to know..

    Labour · Parenting · pregnancy

    My new diaper bag

    When I first started to think about my ‘must have’ items for baby number 2’s arrival, top of my list was a new nappy bag. I had long given up on my Pacapod, it was hard to adjust, didn’t fit as a rucksack and was too small. I knew I would need a bigger bag with more room to carry essentials for both babies so off I went on the hunt for a new mum bag! 

    With a toddler who was reluctant to walk and a newborn, I knew that it was essential that I had my hands free, and so I was set on getting a rucksack. The other factors I considered were  practicality of organising and fitting everything in (the pods concept in the pacapod just didn’t work for me), and style as I still want to look half decent sometimes! 

    I was pretty much set on getting a Tiba + Marl. They make stylish mum bags and you’d never guess they were for storing nappies at first (or second) glance. I originally opted for the quilted Elwood but didn’t love the fabric, so I switched it for the Elwood in black. It’s pricey at Β£130 but I justified the purchase by reminding myself that I had barely brought any new things for baby number two! 

    I’ve only been using it for 7 weeks but I love it already. It’s super lightweight even packed full with essentials for both babies, it has various compartments and pockets to make it easy to organise, a built in shoulder bag/purse for my essentials (keys, money, phone & lippy) and it looks G R E A T! 

    I don’t fumble around trying to find what I need in a mad panic, as I have everything organised in the different sections, this is so helpful when I have two little monkeys causing chaos. It’s big enough to carry extra everything’s so I don’t have to repack my bag every time we go out. So far I love it and love the way it looks and I’m so glad I decided to treat myself. As always, il leave you with some pics.. 


    birth story · Labour · Lifestyle · Maternity · Parenting · pregnancy

    Welcoming baby number 2.. my birth storyΒ 

    With my first baby, we were in the midst of renovating and moving house so I was in no rush for my monkey to make an appearance. Well this time being heavily pregnant with a toddler (who had just learnt to walk), and being more ‘prepared’ (if that’s even possible), meant that I was counting down the arrival of my little munchkin from around 36 weeks pregnant…Do not listen to people who tell you second babies arrive sooner, it will only make you feel disheartened, and the wait feel even longer!

    I laboured at home for the majority of my last labour and coped well with a ‘mama’ tens machine and bouncy ball. I got to hospital when I was 9cm dialated which I was quite chuffed about.. so surely second time round was going to be even easier.. or so I thought!

    My contractions started on Friday evening but they were short, only lasting around 30 seconds, and very bearable. So much so I managed to sleep okay at night, but woke in the early hours as the pain was increasing and then didn’t go back to sleep. I now know this was a bad idea and I should have got as much sleep as possible…

    My husband was home and my mum and sister had come over, so my monkey was well taken care of for the day. I spent the day upstairs, out of sight of my toddler, catching up on eastenders with my tens machine on and half heartedly using the bouncy ball. I kept thinking that the contractions were no way near as bad as last time, but put this down to the fact that last time I experienced back labour and it killed.

    By the evening, the frequency and pain had intensified but was still very manageable. But, having had them for 24 hours at this point, I was convinced I must be almost ready for labour, as surely labour second time round is supposed to be quicker?! My contractions were every 3-4 minutes so off we went to hospital to be examined. After allll that, I was a measley 2cm dialated! I was gutted, although I was laughing and joking through the contractions so should have expected it really. The midwife did say that although I was only 2cm, my cervix had thinned out considerably and was in a good position (not posterior if I remember correctly) so I had ‘done all the hard work already’. She said she thought I’d be back by 1am and I’d have a baby by the morning… hmm. So at around 10pm we left the hospital in search of some nice food.

    It was not our lucky night and we drove around for over an hour as everywhere we went had ran out of what we wanted or were no longer doing take aways. We settled for a greasy burger and chips and went home to eat it. My contractions were still bearable but were a lot more painful. I had stopped timing at this point as I was just getting disheartened…

    I had just finished my greasy meal and was enjoying my coke (sat on my bouncy ball) talking of getting some sleep, when out of nowhere I heard something rupture in my belly followed by a huge gush. My waters had broke, it was horrible, the water kept coming! It was literally like you see in the movies and so unexpected as last time only my front waters broke, until the very end when I was too out of it to notice. Luckily mum and my sister cleared it up, helped me change clothes and off we went back to the hospital.

    We joked that we had a mystic midwife as it was exactly 1am when we returned, just like she predicted. My contractions had really intensified now and I was in A LOT of pain. But when she examined me I was only 3cm.. I was SO disheartened, I felt ready to push and had contractions less than a minute apart. I wasn’t allowed to stay in the delivery suite, and could have no pain relief. Apparently even if I wanted paracetamol I would need to be admitted on to a ward… no thanks.

    I really didn’t want to leave, and the midwife tried her best to let me stay, but the strict rules meant I had to leave again. I literally wouldn’t leave the room so eventually she suggested that we took a walk around the hospital for an hour then came back. So we walked for five minutes back to the waiting room, where I then told my husband and sister that I wasn’t walking anymore and didn’t want to get into the car and go back home as I was in far too much pain and this baby was coming soon.

    We stayed in the waiting room for around 40 minutes while I experienced the worse contractions. I had given up on my tens machine a long time ago so was relying on my sister and husband to rub my back through the contractions. I was getting fed up of going backwards and forwards so I decided we would go back to see if my labour had progressed and if it hadn’t I’d accept it finally, and we would go home and wait it out there.

    I could barely walk back to the delivery suite, and when we got there and Betty (my midwife) finally examined me (a long time after we arrived as she said she wasn’t going to this time she just wanted to observe me), I was FULLY DILATED! Woohoo! I felt like saying I told you so, but I knew it wasn’t Betty’s fault, she had tried to let me stay.

    Straight away I asked for gas and air, but Betty, (and another midwife who suddenly appreared out of nowhere) said no! Great! They told me I really needed to push and get the baby out… so I tried my best, I could feel a sense of panic in the room so tried to focus on finally meeting my baby, which helped me push. Both midwives stayed in the room which added to the panic and they called for a resus kit… I knew I had to push this baby out and quickly, and 15 minutes later my beautiful baby boy was born. I laugh when I read my hospital notes as I was technically only admitted for 15 minutes… but that’s because I spent almost an hour in the corridor before hand!

    My poor little munchkin was very blue and didn’t cry on his arrival but I was told he was fine… he had the umbilical chord stuck around his neck, hence the panic I had picked up on, but we got him out nice and quickly so all was fine. My baby latched on straight away but I was so tired that I was falling asleep whilst he had the world’s longest feed. I kept nodding off, only to be rudely awoken by somebody stiching me up (great another tear, I thought, how unlucky am I). I had lost a lot of blood so was told to shower up then get some rest but that I would be going home by lunchtime.

    I couldn’t wait to get home, baby was checked over and given the all clear so now I was just waiting on a blood test and then we could leave. I waited hours and hours for the test and finally had it late afternoon, to be told at 8pm that I had to stay overnight as I had lost a lot of blood and was at risk of a blood clot. I was gutted, I wanted to get home and I knew my toddler would be missing me. I was cheered up a little by the Nando’s the husband hand delivered to the hospital (a Nando’s post labour is turning into a tradition). All was well the next day and we were able to go home and spend some time as a family of four 😍😍.

    My beautiful baby boy was born on Sunday 18th February at 4.48am, weighing 7 lbs and 4 oz (much bigger than we were expecting)… I am now officially outnumbered by my 3 boys πŸ’™.

    Family · Labour · Lifestyle · Maternity · Parenting · pregnancy

    39 week bumpdate..

    Okay, so by now I really really thought baby would have made an appearance! Don’t listen to people who tell you second babies come earlier, it’s nonsense! 

    I’m so eager to meet my baby and have them here with us now.. I’m anxious about the labour and want it out of the way, plus it’s getting increasingly hard to look after an active toddler being SO pregnant! I think I’m kidding myself thinking it’s going to get any easier once baby arrives though.. I’ll have to let you know.. 

    Having been on maternity leave for two weeks now, I think I have finally completed my ‘to do’ list of everything I wanted to before baby arrives, so I am all prepared! Although it’s really surreal as mentally I don’t think I’ve actually prepared myself for actually having another baby here with us, sounds strange I know but I can’t explain it. I can’t imagine another baby that isn’t Sami, that doesn’t look like Sami, or act like Sami. Also I don’t want to devastate him when he realises the ‘baba’ that he kisses and cuddles daily, is going to share mummy’s attention with him.. he is still very much a mummy’s boy. I just keep thinking he will thank me in the long term. 

    I literally feel like I’m just waiting for baby CONSTANTLY which is so different to last time as I was wanting baby to stay put until our house was ready and we were all moved in. The waiting is horrible! And I’m too tired to really make the most of this time, plus I’m so exhausted from looking after my little monkey and keeping everything in the house ticking along. Anyway enough of me rambling on, here’s my 39 week bumpdate: 

    Total weight gain: 1 stone 2 pounds.. still barely put on anything this pregnancy, I’m still mainly all bump. By 39 weeks last time I was a swollen mess πŸ˜‚

    How big is the baby
    : I’m not sure exactly (not that they really know anyway) but my midwife tells me the baby has had a growth spurt in the last fortnight and has grown loads. Maybe we won’t have a teeny tiny 5 pounder this time! 

    Sleep
    : Since baby dropped about 2 weeks ago, I’m finding it much easier to sleep, finally πŸ™‚ but I still wake regularly for the loo.. every pregnant women’s nightmare I think! 

    Belly button: still in just about but verryyy stretched 


    Stretch marks:
    babies growth spurt has resulted in me finally getting some stretch marks! Kinda sucks but never mind. 

    Maternity clothes: apart from maternity leggings I’m still kidding myself that my normal clothes fit so am living in my ‘normal’ clothes’ although haven’t been pregnant/ breastfeeding for the last 28 months I don’t feel I have any ‘normal’ clothes anymore.. a shopping spree is deffo in order post baby πŸ˜„

    Favourite moment this week: dropping my little monkey to nursery this morning and he just ran off (did I mention he’s a proper walker now??), didn’t even turn to say bye! We’ve come a longggg way from crying every morning for almost 3 months. Makes such a difference! 

    Cravings: still don’t believe in pregnancy cravings although I do always want salty food right now! 

    Labour signs: none, absolutely ZERO!

    Most looking forward to: the tea and toast post labour in hospital πŸ‘ŒπŸΌπŸ‘ŒπŸΌπŸ‘ŒπŸΌ and my babies meeting for the first time.. 


    Family · Labour · Lifestyle · Parenting · pregnancy

    My birth plan

    This time around I am so much more anxious about the labour. First time round your oblivious and you don’t know what to except, plus your also more excited. This time, although I had a smooth labour myself previously, I’ve heard everyone else’s birth stories, and some are terrifying. Once you join the ‘mum club’, fellow mummy’s no longer hold back on giving you the A to Z on their own experiences. I am probably guilty of this too, although my birth story was not so gruesome or terrifying.

    So anyway.. my birth plan. I don’t have one as such, and my midwife said we will go through this at my 38 week appointment, which is surely too late loads of women have given birth by then?! I didn’t have a birth plan last time either, I wanted a water birth, no drugs and skin to skin but was fairly relaxed about how I may change my mind and that things may progress differently..

    So this time, I am keeping an open mind again, I’m not going to have a strict or detailed birth plan, but there are a few things I would want in an ideal world:

    • Drug free labour. I want to stay at home as long as possible using my tens and bouncy ball. I want to use gas and air if possible (only got an hour last time as I was so far along when I arrived at hospital and my midwife wanted me to use the pain to push!).. does gas and air count as a drug? I don’t know.. but like I said I’ll keep an open mind depending on how the labour turns out. 
    • Water birth. I really wanted one last time, but I got to hospital too late and there were no birthing pools free. Really hoping I can this time πŸ™πŸ½πŸ™πŸ½πŸ™πŸ½
    • Skin to skin immediately after birth. I know this isn’t always possible but I want this to happen as soon as possible even if I am totally out of it and knocked out.
    • Donor milk. If for some reason me and baby are separated for a long period after birth, I only want baby to be given donor breast milk, fed via a tube. My reasons being I don’t want to jeapordise my breastfeeding relationship by using a bottle, and also because of the Virgin gut, (Read more here ).. I know not everyone will agree with me on this, but it is a preference I have if it’s possible, not that there’s anything wrong with doing things differently! 

    And that’s it! I’m fully aware that things could go pear shaped and in all honesty I’m trying not to focus on labour itself, and putting it to the back of my mind. Kind of strange when I’m also patiently waiting for my labour to start.. pretty ironic isn’t it? 

      Wish me luck!