Parenting

Outfit of the week… it’s back 

Okay so I’ve committed a million times to being better at updating my outfit posts but I’ve been suffering from a little bit of an adversion to my blog recently. After a long day and another sleepless night (the baba is still a terrible sleeper at 8 months the old), the last thing I’ve wanted to do when I get a spare half an hour is to update my blog.. 

BUT, I have a few exciting things lined up and I have promised myself to make more effort. And winter is coming and I’m a teeny bit excited to hide away in oversized jumpers and big coats! 

So this is probably my last autumn outfit post, and yes I am STILL wearing my furry slides, but as November has arrived so has the cold, so this will probably be the last time they come out for a while.. 


I’m head to toe in Asos and you can find me on their #asseenonme homepage and shop the look here, and yes I was just a little bit over excited that asos feature little old me on their homepage :). 

This year we gave up on Halloween costumes as I literally am finding no energy for anything right now. Buttt the boys are now getting better (it’s been back to back viruses for weeks), so maybe, just maybe we will start to get some more sleep soon and I can feel a little like me again!

S x 

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Fashion · Parenting

Outfit of the week… 

Sooo I promised myself I’m going to make more effort with updating my blog in general AND my outfit posts it’s just so hard to find the time with two little monkeys. 

My youngest has cut his first two teeth, and I think he has his first bout of seperation anxiety which has resulted in him fussing at every nap and then last night, the worse nights sleep EVER! I don’t remember ever having a night that bad with his brother, but you do blank it out so maybe I am just forgetting.

So anyway, it’s autumn. My favourite season. So yesterday I dressed for autumn but was met with early winter and froze. So from now on I’m taking layers out for me and my boys and will be choosing comfort over fashion.. 

We had a family day at the museum yesterday and this is what I wore… 



I’m still living in high waisted jeans, but the 6 months of terrible eating has finally krept up on me and I need to do something now! For once I didn’t need to worry about a feeding friendly outfit as my monkey has started taking a bottle of expressed milk 🙌🏼, saying that I COULD feed in this top with no trouble 

Happy Monday people 

Breastfeeding · Parenting

Outfit of the week 

So I’ve been sooo bad at posting outfit posts, mainly for a few reasons. Firstly I’ve been living in leggings, t shirts & pj’s. Secondly, as I’ve mentioned so many times, breastfeeding makes me SUPER DUPER hungry, so I just feel fat and frumpy! And thirdly 6 months into maternity leave the ££ has drastically reduced and if feel bad spending on clothes when the husband is paying. 

But anyway, here are a few to make up for the extreme lack of posts. And all are breastfeeding friendly 👍🏼

Cold shoulder jacket: Asos. On sale for £15, get it here

Leather look leggings: £16 by converse, available from asos Here

White flared t shirt: £15 by ellesse, available here here

Black furry slides: £6 from Primark

Peach double collared shirt now only £10 from Asos

Mom fit jeans by Monki, £40 from Asos

Suede effect sandals £8 from primark

White flared sleeves t shirt from Zara 

Mom got jeans by Monki 

Rose gold sandals from New Look now £8.50 at Asos

Denim flared top from Zara 

Monki mom fit jeans 

Rose gold sandals from New Look


Jumpsuit from Warehouse 

Brown crossed sandals from New look 

Breastfeeding · Parenting · pregnancy

Breastfeeding in pregnancy 

Disclaimer.. this is ANOTHER post about breastfeeding, so if you have no interest in the topic feel free to skim past this one! 

Yes you read it right, breastfeeding and pregnancy can go hand in hand. Before being a mum, I wouldn’t have had a clue about whether it was possible to breastfeed when pregnant. And it’s unsurprising as so many people believe this myth to be true, even health professionals! In fact, even my mum thought this to be true, as advised by her midwife at the time. So, when she fell pregnant with me when my sister was 3 months old, she too stopped breastfeeding. 

It’s widely assumed that your body cannot provide the right nutrients for both baby in utero alongside your breastmilk. This is infact false, and many women feed their babies throughout their pregnancies and beyond and eventually tandem feed. 

Tandem feeding didn’t appeal to me whatsoever. And so when I fell pregnant with his brother when he was just under 1, I had to reassess my aim to feed him until he was 2. I just knew it wasn’t for me. Perhaps this was due to the mental and physical demands breastfeeding required, but also I just couldn’t imagine having two babies so dependant on me, and the logistics! 

And so I knew I wanted to stop feeding my eldest before his brother arrived, but I didn’t put a time limit on it and I wasn’t ready to stop to begin with, and neither was my food refusing nearly 1 year old. Yes that’s right, at 1 he was still yet to eat a full meal of anything, so had been relying on me 100%.. (see what I mean about it being demanding)! 

So I decided to just go with the flow. And my baby decided more and more that he would feed more and more than ever before which made no sense to me as he had previously only been feeding at naptimes (twice daily), bedtime, and for night feeds. But I kept at it nervously as it seemed like I would actually end up tandem feeding after all! My monkey just showed no signs of stopping, and it felt cruel to take away his only nourishment as he still wasn’t eating or drinking anything else. 

But then it started to get painful. REALLY painful, sore, cracked and bleeding nipples. But I still soldiered on, sometimes crying through the pain. For anyone that’s ever experienced the pain of early breastfeeding whilst your milk supply and babies latch is being established will know how bad this is. Only there was no end to this. Then, at around 20 weeks pregnant, my baby wanted to feed EVEN more, sometimes 3 or 4 times an hour and all night. It had become unbearable. But at 14 months old he had finally started to eat some solids. 

And then it hit me. The constant feeding but him never being satisfied, the pain, and the frequency, led me to the realisation that my milk had turned back to colostrum. And as he wasn’t established onto solid food or any other liquid, he was getting more and more frustrated as even though he was feeding more, he wasn’t getting what he needed. 

I managed 3 months of feeding him through the worse pain ever and and I was now 5 months pregnant. It all become too much, I needed my body back for a few short months before it all started again, and I needed a rest, and definetly some sleep. And so when my monkey was 15 months old I decided to stop breastfeeding him. It took 3 days of offering cuddles and snacks instead of milk, no tears and no fuss. I was shocked! But I also truly think it was a lot easier as he had not been getting any milk for weeks, maybe months and was actually just getting frustrated and fed up by this. 

I hadn’t actual decided to night wean straight away, I was still going to continue with one night feed until I was ready to tackle it, but I was shocked further when after day 2 he stopped waking for his night feed and slept right through.. which was of course a bonus! 

So yes, breastfeeding and pregnancy can go hand in hand, but just like breastfeeding in general, it will not be an easy ride and it takes a lot of effort and dedication. I was proud to feed my baby for as long as I did during my pregnancy but I was also so thankful for the few months break I got in between, and the sleep! 

I’d love to hear other mums experiences of feeding whilst pregnant, or if any of you were fabulous enough to tandem feed. Was it worth the pain and preserving or like me are you glad you stopped when you did? 

Breastfeeding · motherhood · Parenting

10 Tried and tested ways to get your newborn to sleep

I think almost every new mum has a few moments of madness where they just CANNOT get their baby to sleep despite trying everything in the world. And when they finally do sleep you run to the loo, put the kettle on, put some laundry on, then sit down to drink your cup of tea.. and just like magic they wake up! A whole twenty four minutes later! This ordeal is repeated multiple times a day until you are literally ready to tear you hair out.

So here I my tried and tested ways of getting a baby to sleep..

  1. Feed to sleep. This is the simplest, easiest method out of them all. Feed your baby until they fall asleep. Simple? Although many books, experts and other mums will tell you that you must absolutely NOT do this and you will ‘make a rod for your own back’ which is why I spent the first 9 months or so with my first little monkey avoiding feeding him to sleep but had an even worse ordeal in doing so. And now, my new little cutie will not feed to sleep and I so wish he would! Typical!
  2. Go for a stroll. This is a win win all round, baby gets fresh air and so do you (and a chance to burn some calories in an attempt to lose some baby weight.. only to go home and destroy a whole pack of chocolate biccys after 😂), and they will peacefully nod off. The only problem is if you have cheeky monkeys like me you have to keep walking the entire time you want them to stay asleep, otherwise they wake up the minute you stop!
  3. Take a drive. This is perfect if your feeling  to lazy to go for a walk or the weather is rubbish or your so shattered from trying everything else. But again, my monkeys will wake the moment the car stops!
  4. Wrap your baby. This worked like a dream when my baby was first born. I could pop him in my ring sling, carry on with chores and he would be asleep in minutes. But now he’s older he screams and screams when I attempt to put him in and my toddler is sat in the pram ready to go and gets impatient so when we attempt this we end up in a full blown disaster.
  5. Rocking.. This is another one that the ‘mum police’ will tell you to avoid unless you want to be rocking your child until they get married! But if it works you’ll do anything to get them to sleep when you so desperately want them too! You could also add in some humming and singing for quicker results.
  6. Humming or singing. Some babies will sleep to just music with no rocking involved.. worth a try!
  7. A bouncer/ swing. Your baby may weell fall asleep in these, perhaps with some encouragement (meaning rocking/ bouncing it so much it never stops). Mine very rarely did or do.
  8. Swaddling. This apparently works like a dream, if only you can figure how to swaddle without annoying your baby so much they are no longer tired from all the crying!
  9. White noise.. such a good way to calm down a screaming and overtired baby. You tube has many noises to choice from, or you can even just switch the tap on :). My baby seems to know the difference between ‘real’ white noise (the rap running) and ‘fake’ sounds on you tube, which my husband is rather unimpressed with as we have a water meter.. hmm.
  10. A combination of 1 or more, or ALL.. if your desperate like me, you might need to attempt more than one of the above. I rock, and sing AND use white noise all at the same time, until he finally nods off 🙂

You’ll be pleased to know, this mainly applies to the fourth trimester, after that, its easier to predict when you baby will be tired, and therefore easier to get them to sleep in a more ‘normal’ manner. So hang in there mama’s those first three months go quickly, and then you move on to new challenges!

Cooking · Food · Lifestyle · Parenting

Brunch at home.. very easy waffles

Before kids, Saturdays were spent Brunching with friends and family, chatting the day away with no rush to leave, no clock watching and generally just care free… ah that was the life! 

Attempting to go out for brunch now sounds like my absolute worst nightmare. Luckily I enjoy cooking yummy stuff at home, and our favourite weekend brunch is homemade waffles. 

Last year, a friend of mine grabbed me a Waffle Maker from none other than Aldi for a bargain of £20. Usually when we buy similar paraphernalia we never end up using it, like our two smoothie makers, or our George Forman which is still untouched 3 years later. But ever since we have had the waffle maker, we have had waffles atleast once a month for a weekend treat.. and they are delicious! 

Well anyway we had waffles this morning while the baba was napping. It took me around 20 minutes from start to finish to make, and we even let the toddler have his own (with lots of fruit). 



Did I mention they were YUMMY!

Whilst browsing through Aldi’s current special buys, I spotted that the waffle maker is back.. so here’s the link if you want to grab one Here for £19.99.

And here is my super easy recipe taken from the BBC website:

Ingredients

250g Flour (plain)

7g Baking powder

20g Caster sugar

5g Salt

475ml Milk

2 Eggs

30ml Vegetable oil

Method:

  1. Weigh all the dry ingredients, place in a large mixing bowl. Break the eggs into the milk and beat the mixture.
  2. Add the egg and milk mixture to the dry ingredients. Add the oil and mix all ingredients together until all the large lumps have been broken up. Do not over mix otherwise the waffles will be heavy when cooked.
  3. Pre heat the waffle maker and spray with oil (1 cal spray works well).
  4. Pour 3/4 of a cup of batter into the waffle maker and cook for 3-4 mins or until golden brown and crispy on the outside.
  5. Serve with melted chocolate (I used dairy milk), strawberries, berries, banana’s, and cream. If it’s a hot day we add a scoop of ice cream too!

Enjoy:) 

Family · motherhood · Parenting

My secret to 2 under 2

So last week, my oldest monkey turned 2. I won’t talk about how I feel about it all in this post, as that’s an essay in itself! But, I officially no longer have 2 little monkeys under 2. My biggest little boy turning 2 has made me reflect on the last few months. I’ve talked about my day to day survival tips previously, but there are a couple of things that have made the last 4 months so much more manageable, and I’ve actually been suprised at how we have coped and how it’s been far easier then I ever imagined it would be.. don’t get me wrong we have had our moments as well! So, before I forget, I wanted to share these with you all. 

There are two things that have really, really helped us in the last four months: 

1. Routine, routine, routine… 
Yes, I’m one of ‘those’ mums. My eldest has a strict routine and has done from the very early days, which was driven by him not us. I often see friends rolling their eyes when I have to leave somewhere early due to nap or bed time, or god forbid turn something down. But having a solid routine works for us and has actually been a godsend with two which is why I also got my baby into a routine as soon as I could.  My days are predictable, so from the moment we wake, I know which baby needs what when, and when we can fit in activities, outings and chores. And the BEST part is, both my little boys have a longer lunchtime nap so I get a couple of hours to myself in the middle of the day to make lunch, do some chores and sit down and relax! And the even BETTER part is, both boys are in bed around 7/7.30pm. So I get a couple of hours to myself in the evening, to have a quick tidy up, and time to do whatever I want and feel like a human being again! 

I really don’t know how I’d cope without my days being predictable and a tired baby usually leads to a fussy baby, but with a solid routine I know if my babies fussing it’s not because he’s tired if he’s not due a nap. My newborn has been in a semi routine since about 8 weeks and now at 4 months he’s in a solid routine. He wakes at 6am, naps at around 8am, 11am, and 4pm and has 7pm bedtime. The toddler wakes by 7am and naps at 12-2 and has a bedtime 7pm. 

To get the baby into a routine I followed the same pattern as my eldest, which was from around 8 weeks old I would put him to sleep again after around 1.5 hours awake time. But as all babies are different, and their needs change as they get older, my youngest doesn’t actually need a nap until 2 hours awake time and can last 2.5 hours sometimes. From literally 1 week old, once he was asleep past 9pm I took him up to bed with lights out and no talking/interaction during wakings until the morning. This quickly allowed him to learn the difference between night and day and helped us to get into a solid routine. The last month or so I managed to then bring bedtime to 7pm by treating his last nap like bedtime when he woke up. 

I know that strict routines do not suit everyone’s parenting style, but without one I seriously don’t think I would cope as well as I have. I am generally on top of all the housework, the house is generally clean most of the time (I have developed OCD), and I mange to cook fresh meals most days. Oh, and I get my daily dose of ‘me time’. We have pretty much got to the stage where having two little monkeys is the same as when I just had the one and we can all, enjoy our time together. 

2. Co-sleeping 

I never thought I’d want to co-sleep. With my first, we moved our Snuz pod next to me crib away from my bed after a couple of weeks, as it didn’t sit flush against our bed and my stitches made it difficult to get my baby in and out of bed. Plus he was a good sleeper and we were disturbing each other throughout the night. This time round my monkey is not such a great sleeper and having my baby next to me has been amazing. I never put him in my bed as I like to sleep sprawled out and I do want him to be used to sleeping in a cot, but as he is just next to me, I don’t fully wake up when he wakes, I feed him, burp him, then pop him back in. As a result, I don’t have to get out of bed, I barely even wake up, I don’t check the time and best of all I don’t count how many times he wakes. 

This time around I have totally changed my outlook on night wakenings and I’m not focused on how well he is sleeping and purely just trying to get the best night sleep possible to deal with the next day. I often go to bed at 9pm or by 10pm latest and it helps me to get more hours rest, especially as my baby sleeps the best before midnight. It also helps with the super early mornings as he regularly wakes at 5am. As a first time parent I was obsessed with how many hours my baby had slept, how he had fallen asleep and getting him to sleep through, but being so much more relaxed this time and co-sleeping has made a huge difference and I’m in no rush to change things just yet as why fix it if it’s not broken.. 

I’m enjoying things so much right now that both boys are in a routine that I even think we could squeeze another little bubba in with a similar or slightly smaller gap! But having said that, we don’t know what we don’t know and I have NO IDEA what the next few months will look like, mums with older babies may be laughing at my optimism right now, but I’m feeling ready to handle anything so I’m excited about watching my boys grow together! 


Fashion · Parenting

Outfit of the week

So this weekend we have faced a new dilemma.. what to wear during a heatwave that is breastfeeding friendly and minimises two sweaty bodies making each other even more sweaty 😂😂.

 I will save you all from witnessing what I’ve been wearing this past weekend, so here is an outfit from earlier on in the week, before the heatwave kicked in. 

A light cotton t-shirt from Zara, with some New look jeggings, with some comfy sandals from Asos 😍. 


All of the summer clothes sales have started but I am trying my very best to avoid looking online as it really is time I did something about my baby weight! From tomorrow I am actually starting a healthy eating plan! Wish me luck.. 

Fashion · Parenting

Outfit of the week

So this week we had yet another wedding meaning another ‘formal’ feeding friendly outfit to find. As I didn’t have time to get to the shops, I had massss of online deliveries arrive all week, and finally caught a moment when both babies were napping to try it ALL on and settled for this lovely outfit.. 


Both the top and skirt are from Asos and both items are currently half price.. I’ve added the links below.. 

Embellished white top
Metallic Skirt
I felt great and the outfit was perfect for feeding in which was ideal as my little monkey wouldn’t drink the expressed milk I had taken for him! 

Breastfeeding · Fashion · Lifestyle · Maternity · Parenting

Outfit of the week

In the search for some new breastfeeding friendly clothes, I stumbled upon the website Shein. Stylish, on trend clothes and very reasonably priced. 

I’m still waiting for the haul of things to arrive (the two downsides I’ve found so far is, your items come sporadically and take a very long time to arrive). But so far I am loving this T shirt. 

I wore it with high waisted jeans and a vest underneath so I could feed by pulling the tshirt over and the vest down. Oh and my Adidas sandals. And I felt great wearing it 🙂