Sleep training Day one Update

So last night was a totally different ball game to previous nights. Sami fell asleep all by himself with no moaning or crying (much to my amazement) by 7.05pm. By 8pm I thought I’d get into bed to catch some sleep, preparing myself for a sleepless night. But of course I couldnt sleep, as I was too eager to see if Sami would need me when he woke at his usual 9pm.

Well, 9pm came and went, excitedly I thought I’d hold out until 9.30pm.  Sami was still asleep, it was too good to be true, and so I finally drifted off to sleep. Then at 9.40pm.. bang! Sami was up and crying. After three attempts of picking him up, cuddling him, putting him back down, and whispering ‘I love you baby, it’s sleep time’ he stopped stirring. I left his room at 10pm, and didn’t hear a peep out of him.

Feeling extremely pleased I dozed off. I wanted to pinch myself when I next woke and it was 3.05am! Sami had slept 5 hours, this was the longest stretch in weeks. At 3.10am, Sami had put himself back to sleep, I was elated. But then I heard his white noise turn off (I have this playing all night and it runs for 8 hours a time). I went into his room to turn it back on and woke the poor munchkin up. So at 3.20am, I gave him a feed, put him down awake, and he was out by 3.30am! Magic! 

Sami is an early riser, and he woke at 5.45am ready to play. I usually try and put him back to sleep but I was so pleased with him I let the morning start. We had a good day, but struggled with nap time. I have decided I will not try and tackle both together, I simply don’t have the energy, and it’s night time that’s causing me more pain. 

I think I got lucky last night, but really hoping I can stick to it tonight. Sami was tired earlier then usual tonight, and so at 6.21pm he was in bed after three attempts of picking him up and putting him down, he is now out at 6.50pm.. Wish me luck 

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Here it goes.. Sleep training day one 

Last month I wrote about how my babies sleep was the bain of my life, well little did I know it was only going to get worse. A fortnight ago, we were back on track and Sami started sleeping 5+ hour stretches and even managed 4 nights in a row of 8 hour stretches, I started to have hope (albeit I didn’t want to get my hopes up too quickly). The last two weeks have been horrendous. Sami wakes every two hours like clockwork, and after 3am he wakes at unpredictable 30 minutes and 1 hour intervals. 

Last month I also pledged I was going to ride it out as my baby needs me, and I vowed to throw all of my parenting books in the bin. Well I have a fresh perspective now, or rather I am desperate for more than 2 hours sleep at a time, do you blame me? 

Having frantically searched the Internet, putting his wakefulness down to teething or a growth spurt, I have come to the conclusion none of these last this long, and actually my baby has built a sleep association with comfort feeding. When he wakes, the only way to calm him down is for me to nurse him back to sleep. When in fact he isn’t hungry and falls back to sleep within minutes, and is basically using me as a human dummy.

Tonight, I have put him down in his cot, happy and awake. As I sit here typing this in the dark, he hasn’t even stirred yet let alone cried. So at 19.04pm I am still hopeful. Although, I was hopeful yesterday, and the day before yesterday, and the day before that, when after putting himself to sleep initially, he still wanted only my comfort when he woke like clockwork. 

Tonight I am going to attempt the ‘Pick up put down method’ when he wakes. Having only read about this today, I think I have the jist of it, but I am unsure I have the willpower. Perhaps documenting it here will give me some form of motivation to follow it through. Wish me luck, I have a feeling I will be needing it.. 

Desperately seeking sleep 

122 days old 

My little monkey is 4 months old today. That’s 17 weeks, 122 days and 2928 precious hours. Crazy how when you’re pregnant 17 weeks drags, but now every day just whizzes by. 

My little bear has had a tough month. Although he’s a lot more alert, playful and giggly, he has also suffered from a cold for the last 3 weeks, as have I. He is also showing signs of teething and has lovely rosy cheeks a lot of the time. I can’t help but feel sorry for him, especially at night when he struggles with a blocked nose.

He continues to be spoilt by all of my family and extended family, and he just loves the attention he gets, being the only baby. My husbands family live an hour and a half away, and Sami loved his first trip to visit his aunties, grandma, and great grandma this month. Although since being back we have struggled to get him back into a good routine at night (see previous post). Sleeping and naptime are my least favourite part of the day.

On the feeding front, Sami feeds a lot less now, which has made a huge difference to getting things done and taking him out. For the last month he is still refusing my expressed milk in a bottle. I am hoping that these Mimijumi bottles do the trick. They arrived this morning and I am so eager I have already unpackaged and sterilised them, so their ready to go. Keep your fingers and toes crossed for me.

Sami needs constant entertaining, which can be quite difficult for me, particulary with bad sleep and early mornings. Trust my baby to be a super early bird. Thank god for the many helpers around me, and lots of new toy purchases. His new favourite is his rainforest themed Jumperoo. He is a little young for it, but we prop him up with cushions and only allow a few minutes of play at a time. One day he’ll be jumping away on his own! 

We’ve been very busy finalising Sami’s nursery. We were all set to move him into it at night three weeks ago, but then the dreaded sleep saga arised, putting a halt to our plans. He now has lots of storage thanks to 3 sprouts. They have a colourful range of animal storage solutions, we picked three (an elephant, a snake and a hippo) which go perfectly with Sami’s jungle themed nursery. His rocking chair just arrived yesterday, which is the finishing touch, just waiting for daddy to come home and assemble it! Then, All that’s left is to move his snuzpod and we are good to go (only 4 months late, but we did have a house renovation and move the month before he was born). 

I am super happy as this month we have booked our flights and hotels for our summer holiday next year (it’s my sister in laws wedding but who needs an excuse for a month long holiday). Having not been away since February, I am already counting down to next July! Starting to make plans for it has made it more real, although when I return I will be back to work (sob). 

We have also had some amazing amazing news this month which I am so delighted about, but have to keep shhh for now! Super duper excited about this and just wish I could say more..  

  
   
 

   

  

 

Sleep like a baby

Whoever came up with the phrase ‘sleep like a baby’ obviously has never had a baby. My baby does not know how to sleep. I know that sounds strange, but let me explain..

When my baby is tired and wants a nap, he doesn’t want to stop enjoying himself, he is too busy taking in his surroundings and having a good time. He then becomes overtired but is too overstimulated to sleep. This results in a FULL BLOWN tantrum. When I say tantrum, I mean kicking, crying and screaming, uncontrollably. This lasts from an hour to four hours and is heart wrenching. 

It took me up until three weeks ago to realise that sleep was behind the tantrums, so the first thing I did on making this revelation was to read up on sleep training (and in particular for naps as bedtime was no problem). Unlike nighttime, I didn’t have a ‘naptime routine’ which wasn’t helping matters. So I decided on a routine similar to bedtime, and embarked on ‘nap training’ my baby.

And let me tell you, it worked like magic, the very first time. I couldn’t believe it. By day three, Sami was falling asleep by himself for every single nap, I wanted to pinch myself, it was too good to be true, how could it have been this easy all along? And then the bubble burst.. Boohoo. 

By day 5 Sami was clued up on what would happen at nap time, and decided he preferred mummy to put him to sleep, and it all went pear shaped. Sami was suffering from a cold, so I didn’t have the heart to continue, despite knowing that this was normal behaviour and I needed to persevere. To make matters worse, since a trip away to see his family on my husbands side, he’s decided he doesn’t want to sleep at night either and now wakes multiple times, just when I thought I had it all sussed.

So for now, I am going against the advise of all the experts and putting my baby to sleep, because he needs me and I can’t prolong his agony watching him struggle to get to sleep any longer. Night time is still hit and miss, so I am concentrating on getting him back to a good nighttime routine. I never wanted to be one of those mums who couldn’t do anything because they didn’t want to mess with their babies routine. But now I’m a mother I get it, 5 days away from home and I’m still paying for it three weeks later. 

To add to the situation, Sami has outgrown his Sleepyhead and he is really missing it at night, his cot is just too big for him to get cosy.This is by far the best thing we ever got for Sami and I truly believe it was what helped him sleep so well for 3.5 months. The clocks going back have also meant Sami’s morning starts at 5am😭😭. As I’m starting with the whole bedtime thing again, I am getting Sami’s nursery finalised so that we can move him to his own room in the next few weeks.. Keep your fingers crossed for me.