My secret to 2 under 2

So last week, my oldest monkey turned 2. I won’t talk about how I feel about it all in this post, as that’s an essay in itself! But, I officially no longer have 2 little monkeys under 2. My biggest little boy turning 2 has made me reflect on the last few months. I’ve talked about my day to day survival tips previously, but there are a couple of things that have made the last 4 months so much more manageable, and I’ve actually been suprised at how we have coped and how it’s been far easier then I ever imagined it would be.. don’t get me wrong we have had our moments as well! So, before I forget, I wanted to share these with you all. 

There are two things that have really, really helped us in the last four months: 

1. Routine, routine, routine… 
Yes, I’m one of ‘those’ mums. My eldest has a strict routine and has done from the very early days, which was driven by him not us. I often see friends rolling their eyes when I have to leave somewhere early due to nap or bed time, or god forbid turn something down. But having a solid routine works for us and has actually been a godsend with two which is why I also got my baby into a routine as soon as I could.  My days are predictable, so from the moment we wake, I know which baby needs what when, and when we can fit in activities, outings and chores. And the BEST part is, both my little boys have a longer lunchtime nap so I get a couple of hours to myself in the middle of the day to make lunch, do some chores and sit down and relax! And the even BETTER part is, both boys are in bed around 7/7.30pm. So I get a couple of hours to myself in the evening, to have a quick tidy up, and time to do whatever I want and feel like a human being again! 

I really don’t know how I’d cope without my days being predictable and a tired baby usually leads to a fussy baby, but with a solid routine I know if my babies fussing it’s not because he’s tired if he’s not due a nap. My newborn has been in a semi routine since about 8 weeks and now at 4 months he’s in a solid routine. He wakes at 6am, naps at around 8am, 11am, and 4pm and has 7pm bedtime. The toddler wakes by 7am and naps at 12-2 and has a bedtime 7pm. 

To get the baby into a routine I followed the same pattern as my eldest, which was from around 8 weeks old I would put him to sleep again after around 1.5 hours awake time. But as all babies are different, and their needs change as they get older, my youngest doesn’t actually need a nap until 2 hours awake time and can last 2.5 hours sometimes. From literally 1 week old, once he was asleep past 9pm I took him up to bed with lights out and no talking/interaction during wakings until the morning. This quickly allowed him to learn the difference between night and day and helped us to get into a solid routine. The last month or so I managed to then bring bedtime to 7pm by treating his last nap like bedtime when he woke up. 

I know that strict routines do not suit everyone’s parenting style, but without one I seriously don’t think I would cope as well as I have. I am generally on top of all the housework, the house is generally clean most of the time (I have developed OCD), and I mange to cook fresh meals most days. Oh, and I get my daily dose of ‘me time’. We have pretty much got to the stage where having two little monkeys is the same as when I just had the one and we can all, enjoy our time together. 

2. Co-sleeping 

I never thought I’d want to co-sleep. With my first, we moved our Snuz pod next to me crib away from my bed after a couple of weeks, as it didn’t sit flush against our bed and my stitches made it difficult to get my baby in and out of bed. Plus he was a good sleeper and we were disturbing each other throughout the night. This time round my monkey is not such a great sleeper and having my baby next to me has been amazing. I never put him in my bed as I like to sleep sprawled out and I do want him to be used to sleeping in a cot, but as he is just next to me, I don’t fully wake up when he wakes, I feed him, burp him, then pop him back in. As a result, I don’t have to get out of bed, I barely even wake up, I don’t check the time and best of all I don’t count how many times he wakes. 

This time around I have totally changed my outlook on night wakenings and I’m not focused on how well he is sleeping and purely just trying to get the best night sleep possible to deal with the next day. I often go to bed at 9pm or by 10pm latest and it helps me to get more hours rest, especially as my baby sleeps the best before midnight. It also helps with the super early mornings as he regularly wakes at 5am. As a first time parent I was obsessed with how many hours my baby had slept, how he had fallen asleep and getting him to sleep through, but being so much more relaxed this time and co-sleeping has made a huge difference and I’m in no rush to change things just yet as why fix it if it’s not broken.. 

I’m enjoying things so much right now that both boys are in a routine that I even think we could squeeze another little bubba in with a similar or slightly smaller gap! But having said that, we don’t know what we don’t know and I have NO IDEA what the next few months will look like, mums with older babies may be laughing at my optimism right now, but I’m feeling ready to handle anything so I’m excited about watching my boys grow together! 


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Happy 2nd birthday to my biggest, littlest man.. 

And just like that.. my little monkey is 2 today 🎉🎉🎉.

 This second year has gone crazily quick and I can’t believe what a funny, kind, smart and happy little boy he has become.. and did I say funny? He is such a little character and makes all of our lives happier. I love how he articulates himself and it still shocks me that my little baby can talk in full sentences and demand what he wants, and more often what he doesn’t want. We are certainly saying goodbye to the baby days now and I’m so excited to watch this little man grow. 

We had big plans today as Bugaboo had invited us to the Henley Royal Regatta but my youngest boy isn’t well so we had to cancel our plans but we still had a lovely family day together. And the boy got his cake! 

His second year has been taken over by mummy being pregnant, and becoming a loving big brother. It honestly melts my heart how kind and loving he is to his brother and I just can’t wait for them to be able to interact more. Of course we’ve had the odd moments of jealousy (in the early days these were considerably more), but I was really suprised by how well he took to mummy having a baby attached to her 24/7 particularly as he was such a clingy baby before. 

He also learnt to crawl in his second year (13 months), and finally took his first steps at 19 months, and went from being able to say a handful of words to speaking in proper 7-8 word sentences! You can’t blame him for this though as mummy and daddy BOTH like to talk lol. 

Another highlight for him was getting on the plane for our first family holiday to the other side of the world to attend his Aunty Holly & Uncle Tom’s wedding. And he became a cousin to his darling cousin Ava, and is due another cousin very soon! He is slowly gathering a full on gang around him and I can so see him being the ring leader in the future! 

At 13 months we finally got this very headstrong little boy to eat a full meal, and at 15 months old we said goodbye to mummy’s milk in prep for his brothers arrival. He then had a new found love for food and all things acidic! He is slightly obsessed with blueberries, grapes, raisens and oranges! He still calls his water ‘tea’ as he truly believed he was drinking the same tea as us when he started drinking water and the name has stuck since. 

His favourite activity is cutting the grass with daddy and he has an obsession with airplanes! He spots them before me and his first ever screen time after his first birthday was watching planes landing and taking off on YouTube.. this soon switched to watching nursery rhymes but I still think we may have a budding pilot in the making. 

He is just so cheeky and funny I really don’t know where he learns it all from. He is currently in bed singing ‘oh my god’ to himself as I type this! The cutest part is he knows when he is being cheeky and making us laugh. 

Anyway, this was meant to be a short birthday post and it’s turning into an essay already! Every year around his birthday I plan to take some photo’s for him to look back on as kind of a birthday gift from us. So last year I did a Cake smash in our back garden, and this year I took some cute pictures in our garden again but this time with his little brother… 


Outfit of the week.. 

Soo last week I slipped up and didn’t do an outfit post.. blame the two mini men in my life, so hard to catch a break and even harder to get anybody to take a photo for you when you spend the majority of your time with two little people! 

But this week I’m back on it.. here is my favourite breastfeeding friendly outfit of the week.. an oversized cropped sweater from Zara, paired with some high wasted jeans by Monki. I’m officially a mum now I’m in high waisted jeans.. they do a great thing by sucking EVERYTHING in, but I’m still not used to the new wider looking me 😂. 

By wearing a vest top underneath the crop it was so easy to feed in and so discreet. Wish I had known about this easy way to feed with baby number one! Oh well, you live and you learn. Have a lovely weekend people, let’s keep our fingers crossed for more sun! 

Product Review- The Bugaboo Bee⁵

As many of you are aware from my recent posts, for the last few months we have been road testing the new Bugaboo Bee⁵. It’s been a crazy and exciting few months where we’ve welcomed the birth of our second baby boy, alongside my oldest monkey finally getting to grips with walking and not wanting to sit still. So the road test couldn’t have come at a better time to allow me to see if I really need a double buggy (don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with them but being so teeny tiny myself I really don’t want to go down this route) or if can I ‘make do’ with a compact system paired with a toddler board?

Bugaboo set us some exciting challenges so we have taken our Bee⁵ everywhere from the high street using public transport, to a nearby national trust site on an Easter egg hunt, oh and many a lunch/ play date with friends. So we have really put it to the test, and below is our review on how we have found it…

We are major fans of our actual travel system, the Bugaboo cameleon³, which is why we were very excited to test out the Bee⁵. Being new to the Bee, we couldn’t wait to see why this compact system is so highly rated.

Some of our favourite improved features are:

  • Fully customisable from top to bottom (yes, even the wheels can be customised). More on this a little later.
  • Improved seat design which features a super comfy padded seat and a seat that adjusts and can grow with your child.
  • Newly designed basket under the seat which includes a handy pocket for the rain cover (ever been caught in a downpour and it takes forever to get to your rain cover as your basket is filled with so much stuff?!).
  • Five point safety harness which, for some reason my monkey lets me strap him into, using the four straps (no other contraption at the moment is popular, we have daily struggles getting into the car).
  • Improved front wheels and suspension, ensuring a smooth ride.

You can click here, for more details on the specification and features.
So what did we love about the Bee⁵

As well as some of the improved features mentioned above, there were five stand out things we just love about the Bee⁵…

  1. It does what it says on the tin…it’s compact and lightweight! In fact it’s 8.9kg compact! For a short and petite person like myself, it’s so easy to maneaouvre (one handed) and assemble and dissemble. I’m lucky enough to have my mum and sister help a lot with the babies and the added bonus here is that Bee⁵ is also lightweight for my (kinda elderly) mum to use on public transport and it actually fits inside my sister’s boot! This was a major bug bear with my actual travel system as my sister takes my monkey out a lot! Oh and the Bee⁵ fits perfectly assembled in my awkwardly narrow front porch which means I can get a sleeping baby safely in the house without waking them up…massive thumbs up for this!
  2. It’s versatile. The Bee⁵ has made the transition to two babies under two so, so much easier. My oldest monkey had been using the Bee⁵ for around a month when his little brother came along, and the first time we got the bassinet out he broke down hysterically as he felt his brother had taken his place in the pushchair. Thankfully we had the toddler board already so I got it out and made him feel special about his new ‘chair’. I love how I can take them both out using the toddler board and when my biggest monkey decides he wants to walk instead I only need one hand to steer the Bee⁵ so can keep one hand on him! The bassinet is nice and cosy with the extra padded insert, but the seat can also be reclined flat for a newborn. This is great for only having to take one thing out with me, and the frame, bassinet, seat, and toddler board do all fit nicely in my boot. I love how I can keep my options open, with a sling packed in the underseat basket, I can switch who is in the stroller between my toddler or newborn easily. Mums of toddlers know how quickly a toddler can change their minds or not co-operate, so this really is a blessing! It’s also versatile in terms of who is pushing, the handle bars adjust easily to suit the height of the person pushing, and the seat can be world or parent facing depending on preference or where you are and what your doing.
  3. Customise to suit your style! There are some days were I barely make it out of my pjs, but when I do manage to make an effort I want to look and feel good.. and I love how the Bee⁵ can be customised to suit your style… I’m a little obsessed with pastel colours at this time of year, so I love how I can compliment my pastel blue coloured bassinet (call me sad, it’s okay I know), and the leather strap is so on trend! I love how you can give your stroller a makeover for different times of the year (particular love the sun canopy for warmer weather or holidays), or even if you wanted to change how it looks for a new baby without forking out for a new stroller. 
  4. Easy to assemble and dissemble. The Bee⁵ gets a big thumbs up from me on this front. And the whole family have learnt how to do it too (which may sound silly but not everyone could work out how to do it on my actual travel system). It did take me a few attempts to get the hang of attaching and detacthing the seat but it’s super simple once you do get it. And once I discovered you can dissemble the entire stroller with the seat attached, it was a game changer. When your out and about and it’s no longer in use, it’s very useful to be able to dissemble it (one handed in one easy step)… this would be ideal for holidays and travel! Myself and husband share a car and we’re always having to take all the baby essentials out of the car when he goes away for work trips. Having just one piece to move around and store makes things so much easier. This feature is also great if you don’t have a car or use public transport a lot, or like me have a hands on grandparent who doesn’t drive. 
  5. The seat.. I’ve mentioned most of the benefits already, but felt the seat itself needed a thumbs up all by itself as it is so versatile. The seat can be adapted to different situations, you can recline for naps (and all the way flat for newborns), or have your monkeys sat upright in the nicely padded seat. As mentioned, it can be world or parent faced and the stroller dissembles with the seat in place.. for me this is the best thing about it and has made my life so much easier.

For me, the Bee⁵ has proven to be easy to use especially with two babies under two, and above all versatile. It really does suit parents and families that are always on the go. Having road tested it extensively, I have truly loved using the Bee⁵ and love how great it looks, I’ve never been complemented so much on my buggy! 

I only have a few niggles to point out.. 

  • You have to walk towards one side when using the toddler board (like any other stroller and toddler board) and walk at a slower pace if like me you have a toddler that may not cooperate and sit still! This is not always great if your trying to get your newborn to sleep! But this is something that happens with all toddler boards, and is a small price to pay if it means you don’t have to carry your toddler when they get tired!
  • It can be tricky to access the brake with the toddler board in use.
  • Access to the under seat basket is via the front of the stroller, which took me awhile to get used to. This isn’t a major issue, just something a little different.
  • Attaching the sun canopy turned into a little ordeal (taking me an hour to figure out), but I was sleep deprived and had two screaming babies to contend with. I’m pretty sure it would have been so much simpler had I not had a newborn screaming and severe baby brain! After the first time, I’ve not had any issues and can now attach and detach it in seconds.

So will I be getting a double stroller? Hell no! After using such a lightweight and compact stroller, I wouldn’t be able to switch to a larger and bulkier double…I’m so glad I didnt rush to buy one before my newborn arrived! I will be sticking to the systems we have in place now as I’m confident they will continue to meet the needs of my little family.



I recieved this product from the lovely people at Bugaboo for the purpose of road testing and reviewing it, however all opinions expressed are my truthful and my own, my little family truly love everything about the Bee⁵. 

Afternoon Tea at the Edgbaston 

Last week, myself and some Mummy friends (and two bumps) treated ourselves to a girly catch-up and afternoon tea.

For most this meant a nice baby free afternoon, but I took my littlest munchkin along for the ride (he will get used to being dragged around with Mummy I’m sure). My monkey was off at nursery for the day, thank god, as there was no way he would have behaved.

We went to The Edgbaston, which is a boutique hotel in the centre of Birmingham, which is right on my doorstep. You would miss it if you didn’t know it was there as looks like a grand private residence on a street of many others.

The lobby is tastefully decorated in black and gold and makes a very fine first impression, which continues on into the  1920’s themed cocktail lounge where afternoon tea is served daily between 12 and 5.  I loved all the little details and especially the vintage crockery. There was a very luxurious feel to the decor, service and food.

To kick off the afternoon tea there was a little food theatrics which was impressive (not that it takes much to impress me having not been ‘out’ in 4 weeks). It was the perfect environment to have a girly catch-up without our toddlers, and the tea, cake, artisan sandwiches and scones were all delicious!

I’ve tried afternoon tea at various places and have found the prices differ so much. I was surprised that The Edgbaston’s afternoon tea starts from £20 per person (which is the one we opted for); a very reasonable price tag for yummy food, with high quality service and presentation in a luxury setting. I will leave you with some photos…